#BringJasonHome · 365: Daily Journaling · Being A Mom · Love & Marriage

365: Write about your perfect day in exactly one year’s time

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Wow. That’s a deep one given our current situation but OK. Challenge accepted. I’ll try not to tear up while I write this. Let’s move it up a couple of days to Sunday, May 13, 2018: Mother’s Day.

I will wake up in the morning. Hopefully, I slept in — even if it’s for only 30 minutes.

Jason and Alanna have probably snuck out of the house to go buy me a pack of Kit-Kats (Alanna seems to think this is my favourite chocolate — it’s actually Twix but hey, I’ll eat any brand of chocolate — LOL!) and a pot of pink phalaenopsis orchids. Jason’s probably left me a cheesy greeting card.

When he gets back, he uses up all the dishes in the kitchen trying to make me my favourite breakfast meal: Eggs Benedict. He will use all the eggs he needs to make a perfectly poached egg. I will get mad that he’s wasting our organic groceries. Continue reading “365: Write about your perfect day in exactly one year’s time”

The Journey

Chapter 2: Bright Lights, Big City, Raisins & 9-1-1

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The first time I set foot in Canada was at YVR: Vancouver Airport.

We had a layover en route to Winnipeg, Manitoba.

I was 8-years-old.

I remember getting off the plane and I was barely tall enough to see the giant posters on the wall, covered with advertisements about the Rockies.

I remember being so upset that there were no windows at the terminal (other than the ones overlooking the tarmac) because I wanted to see the mountains. (I realize now that you can’t actually see the Rockies from Vancouver, but hey, I was 8.) Continue reading “Chapter 2: Bright Lights, Big City, Raisins & 9-1-1”

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365: What 3 things do you keep doing, even though they don’t serve you at all?

 

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I don’t eat well — or at all, for that matter.

I know I don’t eat enough and that means I don’t eat well.

When I wake up in the morning, I have just enough time to dress and feed the kids, before I have to head out the door and drop them off at school, etc.

When asked to choose between brewing coffee and making food, I brew coffee.

“But, Precious, just eat what the kids are eating!” Continue reading “365: What 3 things do you keep doing, even though they don’t serve you at all?”

#BringJasonHome · Being A Mom · Mental Health · Veteran Affairs

UPDATE: Jason graduating to level 2!

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Being Torontonians in the Cleveland area during the Spring sports season it’s pretty interesting. Lol!

From GoFundMe: Gonna try and keep this short and sweet. 🙂

When Jason was admitted, he was admitted to the first available bed, which wasn’t the unit he was meant to stay in. We had set up all these medical appointments with the VA but unfortunately, he was moved and all the proper paperwork was not put through so, his medical appointments got postponed.

Anyway, he was finally properly assessed and cleared to go to his appointments on Friday. They decided to kill two birds with one stone and expedited him to Level 2 (since the forensic team was coming out to clear him to go to medical appointments, they decided to do the level 2 assessment, also). The paperwork isn’t written up yet but, we’re told he got the thumbs up.

Continue reading “UPDATE: Jason graduating to level 2!”

Health & Wellness

I Jump Rope For my Grandpa

It’s that time of year again!

My eldest daughter is jumping rope in memory of her Grandpa. This is her second year participating. Please visit her personal Heart & Stroke Foundation page (http://support.heartandstroke.ca/goto/IJumpForMyGrandpa) or read her heartfelt letter below:

Even though Jump Rope for Heart is focused on encouraging kids to get active, it’s a Heart & Stroke Foundation initiative — an organization that was close to my grandpa’s heart.

Heart & Stroke first entered my grandpa’s life when his eldest daughter was born prematurely. I don’t think he ever realized that they would be a part of his life when he suffered a massive stroke in 2012. While he was in hospital in a coma for 8 months, my grandma (his wife), also had multiple strokes and once again, Heart & Stroke came back into our lives. My stepdad passed away in August 2013 but every year, I jump rope in his memory.

Last year, I raised $260, that was $110 more than my goal of $150. I know our deadline is less than 2 weeks away, but I’m hoping to surpass what I raised last year. Help me by making a donation today!

Every seven minutes in Canada, heart disease or stroke takes another life. And another 1.6 million survivors are living with the effects of these devastating diseases. With your help, we’re that much closer to living lives free of heart disease and stroke.

Please help me reach my fundraising goal by making a donation to my personal fundraising page today.

Together, we can make tomorrow healthier for the world.

Love,

Alanna (and the entire Lesko family)

Being A Mom · Mental Health · The Journey

Chapter 1: The Beginning

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These are my cousins. Although I don’t mention them in this post, most of my good memories growing up were with these three beautiful people.

Disclaimer: I’ve forgiven my dad. We talk now. I don’t write out of spite or resent. I write because I want to share my experiences with people. If you are going through any kind of trauma, you are not alone. It may seem like you are in the moment, but there are people who love you, and care for you, and are wiling to help you when you are ready.

I don’t have a lot of memories of my childhood. I remember the gist of things that happened but there are a handful of “vines” in my head: Six-second clips that constantly loop in my mind.

Trauma is funny that way.

I never intentionally suppressed my memories and yet, I have a hard time recalling a lot of things that happened.

My earliest memory is of me as a toddler.

I woke up in the middle of the afternoon and I couldn’t find my mom. Continue reading “Chapter 1: The Beginning”

#BringJasonHome · Being A Mom · Health & Wellness · Love & Marriage · Mental Health

UPDATE: Jason is NOT GUILTY

From GoFundMe: If you haven’t heard by now, Jason was found Not Guilty by Reason of Insanity on two counts, a third one was dismissed. He was ordered to be hospitalized until doctors feel he’s safe for release into the community. The Toronto Star (http://bit.ly/2q420sv) and CityNews (see below) did a follow-up.

I’m confident he can start the process of transitioning back into the community sooner, rather than later. He’s doing really well on his meds.

In many ways, hospitalization is good news. But, it’s also terrible news because it means that The State could be in our lives for the next 10.5 years, and it means we’ll be apart for at least the next 6 months, as his first assessment likely won’t be until October. (The psychiatrist at the hearing said she felt it was important Jason be near his family and advocated for him to be moved closer to home. I’m glad we got that on the record but, I’m pessimistic that the State would be willing to lose jurisdiction over the case.)

I’ve always been critical of the fact that despite how sick Jason was, he was constantly taken back and forth between the hospital and jail. He spent 116 days in custody, most of that time in county lock-up. After the trial, he had to wait in jail for a bed at the hospital. Also, his thyroid issues have remained largely ignored — which could actually be fatal if left untreated. Continue reading “UPDATE: Jason is NOT GUILTY”

#BringJasonHome · Health & Wellness · Mental Health

An open letter to the Ontario Minister of Health

I wrote this on Aug. 1, 2016. It was published on my anonymous blog. I Tweeted it at Dr. Eric Hoskins. Of course, HE NEVER RESPONDED. This is VERBATIM. I haven’t changed this. This was a whole FOUR MONTHS before my husband went missing AGAIN and wound up getting arrested in Ohio. Continue reading “An open letter to the Ontario Minister of Health”

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UPDATE: Important hearing tomorrow

Update from GoFundMe: Prayer warriors: I am appealing to you all to pray, meditate and send all the positive vibes you can our way.

Tomorrow is Jason’s status conference, which is a hearing of sorts. It’s my understanding that a lot has to be done at this meeting and a lot needs to be put on the record.

We’ve already received the second assessment regarding his diagnoses and it backed up the first assessment so, there can’t be any more assessments to slow down the case. The only thing that could potentially stall the end is if the judge, defense and prosecution can’t agree on conditions.

Hopefully, a roadmap will be set to the end of Jason’s case and we’ll have some idea of when this will all end.

If you all recall, Jason’s case entered the 5th month last Wednesday. As of tomorrow, his case would be 125 days old.

The last court hearing — when the judge revoked Jason’s bond on the same day he had a crucial appointment with the VA, and several other appointments shortly after that — that day kind of broke me emotionally. It really shattered my hope that there’s any kind of justice in the “justice system.”

We’ve had our wins. Two favourable reports are certainly huge victories but, it’s really disheartening to know that while the system is changing, it’s still lagging behind compared to the research and dialogue regarding mental illness and justice-involved veterans.

Google reminded me of what we were doing on this same exact weekend a year ago. It reminded me of this family photograph we took in Ravenna when we came down for his eldest son’s birthday. I will leave you with this photo.

God bless. Peace and love to all of you.

Precious, Alanna, Liberty, Charles (and Jason)

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#BringJasonHome · Being A Mom · Health & Wellness · Mental Health

UPDATE: Jason is back in jail

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On Friday, March 17th, Jason’s forensic psychiatrist submitted the second psycho-diagnostic assessment. Based on conversations I had with her, I believe she will agree with the first assessment, which diagnosed Jason with having PTSD, comorbid with being on the psychosis spectrum. (His VA psychiatrist believes it stems from his second tour in Iraq due to events — yes, plural — he experienced in theatre.)

Originally, we were told there would be a competency hearing within 10 days of the report being submitted but it turns out, there will NOT be a hearing in the near future. Instead, there is a “status conference” scheduled for the first week of April, presumably so that all sides can discuss their positions and decide how to move forward.

Thus far, the prosecution has remained fairly neutral. That’s what they promised and that’s what they’ve done. (Mind you, they decided to remain neutral AFTER they stacked charges against him. But — that’s another story.) Continue reading “UPDATE: Jason is back in jail”