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Finding Free Mental Health Support Online (Support For Anything, Really!)

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This video is my take on Facebook Groups: The Pros and Cons. Why I think that it’s a great place to find people who understand what you may be going through, and can support you when you feel isolated, and feel like no one in your social circle understands.

I am a part of several Facebook groups, not just ones pertaining to trauma and mental health.

I forgot to mention that each group has their own set of rules that you need to agree to, in order to join the group. Failure to adhere to those rules, will usually mean a suspension (you can’t participate) or you’re just booted. Before you get up in arms and talk about censorship, remember that these groups cover sensitive material and in my experience, the admins do a great job balancing free speech, and blatant spam/pointless points/harmful posts.

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Meet Archie and Serena! Two of the four paramedics that delivered my son, Charles ❤️

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We got to meet them today and it was pretty cool! (The other two were Laura and Leah but they couldn’t make it.) They were telling me that they don’t usually get to find out what happens to patients after a call so, it was cool for them, as well.

My youngest baby came so fast! Other moms warned me that each kid comes faster than the last one. I didn’t really believe it because my first two births took hours.

I have three kids.

My youngest baby came so fast! Other moms warned me that each kid comes faster than the last one. I didn’t really believe it because my first two births took hours.

I was ready to have a home birth (set up my home and everything) but I was running a food business at the time and it was the last business day before Thanksgiving. I didn’t want to let my customers down so, I went to work.

Continue reading “Meet Archie and Serena! Two of the four paramedics that delivered my son, Charles ❤️”

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Cop kills mentally ill man and Internet blames the family

I address two things: The idea gaining traction on the web that the family didn’t do enough for Ejaz Choudry, the schizophrenic man shot dead by police in Mississauga Saturday night; and whether or not the officer who killed him, should be arrested for murder. This is probably the most pissed you’ve seen me in a video, in a while.

I try not to be so emotional but when I’m riled up, I’m riled up.

My original reaction to the news is here: https://youtu.be/Er_tRZZn-GI

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Why I’m against defunding police

I posted this as a comment but decided I’m just going to post it as a general post.

I’d like to fill you guys in on some facts: THIS IS SOMETHING I’VE LIVED THROUGH.

First of all, police have actually continuously been defunded as of late. They face cuts year after year. To the point where if you look at a local map, you’ll see that Peel Police 21 Division covers a huge portion of Brampton, a portion of Caledon and a portion of Mississauga. They only recently reopened the Malton Community Police Centre, but regardless, Malton is still technically part of 21 Division.

That’s ONE division that covers a major area of Peel.

And on any given shift, they are short-staffed and they need to bring in officers from other less busy divisions to cover their area because 21 Division is one of the busiest divisions in Peel. Because they have such a large area to cover, this is why if your car was stolen 12 hours ago, and no one is hurt, it could take them several hours to come to respond to you. This is why if somebody committed a crime on your street but no one was hurt, it takes them several hours to get to you. It’s not that they don’t care. There’s simply not enough of them. This will not be fixed by removing funding.

Second of all, you guys like to say things like, “Cops shouldn’t be involved in mental health.” Yeah. I’ve personally spoken to the FORMER police chief about this. Funny story: THEY TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU.

I hate to break it to you but this falls squarely on the shoulders of our provincial government. The Mental Health Act of Ontario literally requires the involvement of police. It is written in the law and until that’s changed, you can yell at the cops all you want, but it’s part of their mandate to be involved.

I think what people don’t understand is the difference between an arrest and detainment. Under the mental health act, police (with approval from a judge OR a doctor) can detain a patient and take them to the hospital against their will. People take videos of this stuff and they compare it to an arrest. It is NOT the same thing. The detention (cuffs, etc.) is for the safety not just of others, but for the safety of the patient, as well.

In recent years, the police have actually invested MORE money into mobile crisis teams and have partnered with crisis teams to respond to mental health calls. But, you’d be hard-pressed to find a social worker, nurse or doctor who’s going to be equipped to respond to a severely mentally ill patient who may be violent. They’d require police training for that. And we already have the police. And I’ve never met a social worker on a mobile crisis team who wants to take over the police responsibilities on a mental health call. They are there for a reason.

When police are failing and could be better served by better training, this requires manpower and requires money. This also will not be fixed by defunding.

Where you want the police to be involved less, these are LEGAL issues that you need to take up with your city councillor, mayor, MP, MPP (depending on the jurisdiction of the law you want changed). That is why it is so important to show up on voting day. Because you need to vote out bad policy-makers who write these laws into place.

It’s easy for y’all to say it’s the cops’ fault, but the law literally requires the involvement of the police. The cops didn’t write those laws. Even worse. The laws are written where the involvement of police is necessary, but their hands are tied in terms of how much they can do when they’re there.

The laws need changing. The policy-makers need changing. They are the ones who put the systemic issues in place. While some forces, like the LAPD, for example, actually have historic provable racist roots, and they need to prove that they’ve changed, Peel Police, on the other hand, is one of the most diverse police forces that exist. Crying for our local police to be defunded when they’re struggling as it is is unreasonable.

 

EDIT: Funny enough, I made a video about when and why police get involved under the Mental Health Act here. I actually started this video thinking the cops were abusing their power, and through research, realized the law was on their side. So, if you have a problem with what happened here, take it up with your MPP, not the cops.

I also forgot to mention that if you speak to the local fraud department at 21 Division, they are so swamped with cases that they are two years behind. The last time I spoke to them in 2019, they told me, they were just opening up cases from 2017 because they are short-staffed.

There’s also an elderly abuse coordinator. She’s a constable, My understanding is that every single case involving a victim 60-years-old or older comes across her desk. There’s only one of her. One elderly abuse coordinator for Peel Region. Think about that.

And you want to reduce their funding?

Please. Rethink that the next time you say they need less money, but need to do more.

 

Mental Health

Mindfulness is a Superpower

This week, I’m preparing materials to introduce all of you to what seems to be, this new, hip and novel concept of “Mindfulness.”

It’s actually not new but it’s growing in popularity because the science shows that it can help us achieve wise mind.

In preparation for the ideas I’m going to present in my coming video, I wanted to share these awesome videos.

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97920896_2924056897675947_4213273818279444480_oI mentioned in yesterday’s video that emotions are meant to only last 90 seconds. They peak halfway and then dissipate.

Unfortunately, we sometimes poke at our emotions. Sometimes, it’s subconscious, and we’re not even aware that we are triggering the emotion to return or stay, far longer than it’s physiologically meant to. Continue reading

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Graduating from Intensive Outpatient Mental Health Therapy

Certificate Graduation

Well, would you look at that?

I graduated.

I actually went through the entire 10 weeks, despite saying that this thing was probably not for me.

Sadly, I lost the last three weeks of in-person group therapy, due to the outbreak of COVID-19 and social distancing guidelines.

I was hoping that they would postpone the program and I’d be able to make up the last three weeks at a later date.

Unfortunately, they opted for one-on-one phone sessions, which were valuable, but were certainly not the same.

I was able to get all the material emailed to me.

And here we are.

I gave it a chance and I ended up loving it Continue reading “Graduating from Intensive Outpatient Mental Health Therapy”