Stay-At-Home Order, Lockdown, Motherhood & Gig Work

If you haven’t heard by now, there’s an Ontario-wide stay-at-home order.

This will be the third time since the pandemic started, that I’ve had no childcare and had to change how I balance being a mom and doing gig-work full-time.

I know I just talked about motherhood and gig work on Monday, but that was *BEFORE* I learned they were going to shut down schools, and I had childcare lined up for the foreseeable future.

Today, I’m going to discuss tips and tricks to help you get through the next few weeks of COVID-19 restrictions, especially if you’re in a region where they switched schools to online learning (I’m in Peel Region, where schools are closed until April 19, and all school-aged childcare has been shut down).

Sorry that I didn’t really explain the #DeclineNow movement. You can read about it in this Vice article:

Decline Now is a collective movement by DoorDash drivers to decline low-paying orders, forcing the algorithm to boost the payout for the next driver it’s offered to.

This actually works on other platforms, as well.

On Instacart, if a low-paying batch sits on the platform long enough, it will receive a peak boost. This is why we always tell new shoppers not to take low-paying orders.

This can work SOMETIMES on Cornershop. If a low-paying order keeps being sent to shoppers that are at a store closest to the customer, and those shoppers continue to decline that order, it may then be assigned to a shopper that’s at a different store branch that’s further away, driving the mileage pay up.

For this reason, I always tell gig workers not to accept low-paying offers — regardless of what gig they’re working on.

Meet Archie and Serena! Two of the four paramedics that delivered my son, Charles ❤️


We got to meet them today and it was pretty cool! (The other two were Laura and Leah but they couldn’t make it.) They were telling me that they don’t usually get to find out what happens to patients after a call so, it was cool for them, as well.

My youngest baby came so fast! Other moms warned me that each kid comes faster than the last one. I didn’t really believe it because my first two births took hours.

I have three kids.

My youngest baby came so fast! Other moms warned me that each kid comes faster than the last one. I didn’t really believe it because my first two births took hours.

I was ready to have a home birth (set up my home and everything) but I was running a food business at the time and it was the last business day before Thanksgiving. I didn’t want to let my customers down so, I went to work.

Continue reading “Meet Archie and Serena! Two of the four paramedics that delivered my son, Charles ❤️”

Everyone knows how awful *YOU* are…

It’s been no secret that I’m currently enjoying Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Dr Karyl McBride.

The book has three major sections.

Thanks to the holidays, I’ve only been able to make it through the first section, which helps you identify what the problems were in your family growing up.

But despite not being through the entire book yet, there was a concept that stuck out at me and I felt I needed to share it with you.

In the book, Dr. McBride talks about triangulation. Reading about it gave me an “Aha!” moment.

Continue reading “Everyone knows how awful *YOU* are…”

I Grew Up In a Cult

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Ooh. I know this is going to rub my actual friends, who follow me on social media, in all the wrong ways. Before you get offended, read all the way through. Just saying…

I grew up in a cult.

There’s just no other way to put it.

It took me, well, until about now, to be able to even say that, because my religion was a huge part of my identity.

Those of us who were in it since birth, usually say, “I was born in ‘the church.'”

The organization was called The Worldwide Church of God (AKA WCG – you’ll see how funny these acronyms get as we go along; also, watch this video I’ve embedded, if you don’t want to read a dissertation on a cult that doesn’t exist anymore). Continue reading “I Grew Up In a Cult”

Narcissistic Parents & Emotional Abuse

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Rarely, do I meet people who conjure up ideas of a woman being the abuser, and the man being the victim, or worse — her child(ren).

We know child abuse happens. There are far too many cases of children dying at the hands of those who brought them into this world.

But I think we tend to think of the man as being the aggressor.

I’m not interested in sexism. That is not my point.

I think that the relationship between a mother and her child, especially a mother and her daughter, has long been painted as a sacred relationship. Continue reading “Narcissistic Parents & Emotional Abuse”

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